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Ask a Guy

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Tara Hedman (yep, the lady who runs this show) and I have been friends for years. A few years ago she asked me to help with what she calls, Ask a Guy Night. Prompted by the blank look on my face, she explained, “As I work with women, sometimes they ask me questions like, ‘Why do men do that!?!?’ to which I reply with something like, "Well, I'm not a man. So..." As a result, periodically, she began hosting, Ask a Guy Night. She bills it as an evening where you can learn, "Everything you ever ...read more

Filed Under: Aversion, Connection, Fear, Heart and Soul, Jeff Ingram, Relationship Coaching, Vulnerability

Contentment

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My wife ordered a sandwich the other day and asked for wheat bread because it was listed on the menu. The guy at the counter said, “We don’t have wheat bread.” We've been to a KFC that didn't have chicken. Really. I’ve heard of an I-Hop without any pancake batter and a nice restaurant with an enormous menu, but really only had one type of fish. So no wheat bread is no big deal. But the first few times this happens it can be pretty frustrating. You get your heart set on something, your ...read more

Filed Under: Codependency, Connection, Counseling, Fear, Jeff Ingram

Life Is All About Off Road Racing

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Over the weekend I saw part of the Lucas Oil Off Road Racing Series. Before the race began, the trucks were muddy with parts already hanging off. They took off through the mud, over hoops and jumps and around hairpins. They banged into each other, came off jumps that ripped a bumper off, slid and spun and broke axles. One guy had his hood fly up into the windshield and he kept driving, peaking through the one little hole he could see through. As I watched I thought, “THAT is life!” We ...read more

Filed Under: Fear, For Fun, Jeff Ingram, Life Coaching

Confrontation and Broccoli

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By: Jeff Ingram I don’t like conflict. In the fight or flight part of my brain, the trigger to flee is dominant… very dominant. This has lead to years of avoiding conflict like a kid avoids broccoli. I've learned, though, that conflict isn't only necessary, like broccoli, it’s healthy. I’m not talking about the kind of conflict some people crave, the conflict that’s combative and meant to cause harm. Instead, it’s having the courage to lovingly confront, to provoke growth and strengthen ...read more

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The Stories We Make Up (or How to Screw Up Relationships)

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I have a wonderful dogsitter named Bonnie. She takes my two little furry nuggets on walks, lets them out to potty, and when she’s at the house for extended periods, she does dishes, makes the bed, and takes out the trash. She’s pretty fantastic and everyone should have a Bonnie. Recently, I walked into the house after work and she still happened to be there. We made small talk as she sat down on the couch. Her face was very serious and her tentative body language said something was ...read more

Filed Under: Connection, Featured, For Fun, Tara Hedman, Vulnerability

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