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Crazy is Easier

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When clients first visit with me they often ask, “Am I crazy?” They are asking the question in all seriousness. They’ll tell me more of their story and ask again, “Am I crazy? You’d tell me, right?” For some, the question is asked because the choices they’ve made seem utterly unreasonable. The things they’ve done to themselves seem outrageous and irrational. For others, the things that have been done to them are truly unbelievable. My response over and over is, “You’re not crazy, you’re ...read more

Filed Under: Addiction, Aversion, Counseling, Grief and Loss, Sexual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse, Tara Hedman

Why I Love Porn

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A new magazine shows up in the mail. I love the way my heart races and I get a bit woozy right after I pull it out of the mailbox. I make sure there’s nothing to distract me, relax into my favorite chair, and open the pages slowly. Two hours are gone before I know what’s happened. The next day, I resolve not to get sucked into the compulsive vortex. I’m determined not to spend one more cent on the stuff. Then, WHAM! An email shows up with photos of exactly the material I like, or a salacious ...read more

Filed Under: Addiction, Aversion, Tara Hedman

Dangerous Differences

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Recently, my 40th birthday was held in the backyard of a friend’s house. This particular friend has two little girls, and they have a tree house to beat all other tree houses. It’s lined with potted plants, has been written on in little girl handwriting, and has a tire swing hanging below it. As a few friends started to gather they were commenting on the tree house. I noticed that several of my female friends called it a playhouse. As friends arrived, the tree house erh, um, …playhouse, ...read more

Filed Under: Aversion, Sexual Abuse, Tara Hedman, Vulnerability

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