“Your authenticity is your power.” I heard a clip of Oprah Winfrey saying this recently. The truth is, I’ve often struggled to believe that I could be powerful. Growing up, I repeatedly believed the message that I was too sensitive. I’ve found it difficult to be authentic in arenas where my emotional reality was inconvenient for other people. I learned to hide what I felt and self-abandon. But hiding reinforced the very message of inadequacy I was running from. It was a disempowering ...read more
My Truth?
When important, meaningful words or phrases in counseling/recovery/psychology start to take on twisted pop culture meaning, I can lose it a bit. For those who have spent time in my office, you know how I feel about the use of words like “boundaries” or “narcissist” when spoken flippantly. By repeating cultural lingo, the true power of these words and their meaning is cheapened. The same goes for the phrase “my truth”. “My truth” once meant that I acknowledge that the way I see something ...read more
Everything We Make Up
Something I help clients learn is how to utilize the phrase, “what I make up about that is.....” Much of what we think and say is “made up”. The stories we make up aren’t about lying. Lying has a different intention. The stories we make up are about how we have filled in the blanks. The difficulty is we present these details as fact. They aren’t. They are truly “what we make up”. It can seem reasonable because we are very familiar with a specific historical pattern. So, we make the ...read more
Meal Train for the Brokenhearted
From time to time I receive invites for Meal Train. If you aren’t familiar with it, it is an online service that provides the opportunity to take meals to someone in need. A friend or family member will create a Meal Train for someone recovering from a recent hospital stay, an injury, or has a new baby. It's an excellent service and keeps the well-wishers on a schedule, and keeps the new mom from receiving five lasagnas on Tuesday. It's an efficient way to organize care and be of service. ...read more