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U and I and iPhone

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My iPhone gets me in trouble often. Recently, I was responding by text to a friend regarding where we might meet for dinner. After a suggestion of location, I responded with “Okey Dokey”. Autocorrect didn’t quite grasp my midwest version of ”ok”, and responded to my friend with “Honkey Monkey”. I find that these quirky nuances of the iPhone are humility creating events from time to time. The “U” and “I” are so darn close together on the keyboard. I cannot be expected to hit the right buttons ...read more

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Murphy the Teacher

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I have a small wooden plaque in my kitchen that reads, “My goal in life is to be the person my dog thinks I am”. I suppose that when people read it they see it like a bumper sticker. Curious and meaningless. But to me, it’s profound. I have a sweet little Shih Tzu named Murphy. I don’t want to be the crazy old lady down the street with the little dog, but I am kind of becoming her. I don’t take him everywhere with me, but I want to. I decline to take him to a friend’s house when I’ve been ...read more

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Dead Wood

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In my front yard is a 20-year-old silverleaf maple tree. It’s beautiful in the spring when the new buds pop through with their green and yellow spouts. It’s stunning in the fall with its blazing orange and red leaves. In the summer it creates privacy for my bedroom and shade from the intense Colorado sun. Last year, about ¾ of the tree never produced a leaf. I had the tree guys come look at her. They did tests and some root examination, and charged me quite a lot, I might add. They left me ...read more

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Pain and Pretending

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Three weeks ago today I woke up at 3 am with kidney stones. If you’ve never had kidney stones, you’re probably thinking, “that’s too bad, I hear kidney stones are painful”. However, if you have had kidney stones, right about now your Post-traumatic Stress Disorder is kicking in and your having flashbacks of excruciating, mind-numbing agony. You’re starting to sweat; the room is beginning to spin. You’re nauseas and fear is streaming through your veins. …It’s ok. Breathe. It’s only a memory. ...read more

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Vulnerability Begets Vulnerability

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Why do we think anger and resentment will cause others to give us what we want? Why do we think that force and might will get our needs met? Because it has in the past! We all know it works. We get angry. People cave. We get what we want. But is that what we really want? I think it is, until I get it. Getting what I want because of my well articulated anger or by causing fear in another though manipulation is the Rice Krispies of satisfaction. It looks satiating, but until I have fully ...read more

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